Onion Rings

Onion Rings

This is the time of year that many take their children south to visit grandparents and get a head start on baseball season. I remember back to when we would pile our three sons in the station wagon and make the trek down I-95, and further back to when my parents would take us down US 1 to the Keys, before there was an interstate.

There was a fundamental difference in those two trips: I-95 is a self-contained ribbon, with its service pods of brand name motels and eateries, connecting two points on the map, while the trip down old US 1 was an adventure, taking us through worlds that we otherwise would never have experienced.

Nothing better illustrates the difference than mealtime. On I-95, the choices are no different than those at the local mall, completely familiar and risk-free. A Big Whopper is a Big Whopper, whether served with a New England accent or a Southern drawl. But get off the Interstate and a whole different world of eating opens up - from clam chowder (New England and Manhattan) up north to she-crab soup in the Carolina low country to conch chowder south of Miami.

Of course, venturing off the interstate entails some risk. Not every local diner is worth a visit, and a lot of “homemade” is best left to someone else’s home. But without risk there is no reward. The best order of onion rings I ever had was in a little waterside eatery in Port Royal, SC, an easy detour off of I-95.

My parents had no choice: there was no interstate, and back then travel was much more of an adventure. Betsey and I had to make a choice to take the exit ramp (or, on one wonderful trip, to eschew I-95 and take the coastal route from Savannah though Charleston, the Outer Banks and the Delmarva Peninsula). Of course our boys protested, but I have noticed how often as adults they, too, have chosen the road less traveled.

As parents and educators we have a choice: we can offer our children a life that is as risk free as we can make it for them, or we can help them acquire a tolerance for risk and the capacity to make good choices so they can experience life in its fullest. I know which option I wish for my grandchildren.



 

Comments

I agree. Some of my best memories with our children come from our cross country travels from the desert to the mountain top. My daughter spent her 16th birthday camping at 12,000 feet amidst 5,000 year old trees. We "baked" her birthday cake in an iron dutch oven in the campfire. I also remember waking from a cat nap in the back seat to see her at the wheel on Route 66 cruising at a cool 45 mph...just prior to her 16th BD! The smile on her face was magnificent and when I asked with a hint of alarm in my voice just how long she had been driving, dad remarked sleepily from beneath his hat pulled down over his eyes in the front seat next to her, "she's doing great! I was able to grab a little nap up here it's been such a smooth ride." The smile grew even wider. "Thanks." is all she said. We spent 7 weeks on the road exploring the countryside, hiking, camping and pausing for days in any given spot. We made plans as we traveled along. Often the kids would take our guides and peruse locating the next stop. We crossed the country in our Dodge van carrying camping supplies and clothing on top. We were prepared to sleep outside or in the van depending on our neighborhood (buffalo are inquisitive creatures). The route took us a southern way out to the west coast and a northern view into Canada on our return in late summer. We camped along rushing Colorado River waters, hiked the beautiful Black Canyon, explored the Red Woods and spent 10 days in Calgary Canada sleeping with the challenge of sundown timing after 11:00 p.m.! We lost our tent in a sandstorm in Utah...the one time we decided on a motel stop with a swimming pool! Worth the risk every mile to create these lasting experiences which clearly have influenced our children in their fearless ability to travel and explore the earth. They both ride bikes and long boards everywhere preferring their own feet to gas power. They crave time near water or long views and equally find themselves interested in new venues and experiences. They challenge themselves boldly and take their mistakes in stride. These wonderful and yes, risky family adventures, provide us with lasting bonds which we revisit together when our paths cross considering one child lives on the west coast in Oregon and the other in Brooklyn, NY.

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